Is there a cure for grief?
People ask me all the time, Laura, what is the cure for grief? How did you get to where you’re at today? You know, you look so great and happy and joyful. What is your secret?
For you to continue to move on, we need to learn how to live in the now, in the present moment. And a lot of the time when we are suffering, we are thinking in the future, or we are thinking in the past and all of our memories.
So our mindset needs to be strong, and we need to learn how to be more aware of our thoughts. What are the thoughts that we are thinking daily after going through this loss?
Are they thoughts of the future or are they thoughts of the past and what you’ve just experienced, and thinking about all the times now that you’re not going to be able to share those happy, joyful times with your loved one. Learning to live in the present moment in the now.
My next suggestion is to share your story and be vulnerable. Sharing our stories are beautiful, and we experience tremendous healing when we are sharing our stories. And not only are you helping yourself heal by sharing your story, but you’re helping others. Because people learn from each other’s stories, they’re beautiful. And also it will help you connect with other people by sharing your story. And the connection is so important when we’ve gone through a loss of a loved one because we get a sense of like disconnection.
My next suggestion is to slow down. Slow down and feel those emotions. Feel those things. We tend to make ourselves busy, and we try to forget about all of that pain that we’ve just experienced because it’s so hard to face that pain. So we go out, and we hang out with people all the time, and we are working, and we are doing all the things, even cleaning the house, all of that. So I suggest slowing down and feeling all those feelings.
My next suggestion is to find your future. Your life will never be the same again. You will never be that person that you once were when that person was alive. When you’ve gone through that loss, it’s completely shifted who you are as a person. You are going to grow, and you are going to learn from those experiences. You’re going to be reclaiming your new identity after that loss. Who are you? Who are you in this world now?
The next suggestion I have is to turn your pain into your purpose. A lot of time we learn how to shift our pain and move it into our purpose. So use your mess as your message. You will touch people’s lives. And I always say that if we can’t help yourself, then we go out and help others. It’s getting out of your obsessive, self-centered thinking. When we are suffering, we are truly just thinking about ourselves.
If you have a certain question that you’d like to ask… I always come back in here, and I check all the comments and the questions, so please comment below. I would love to hear from you.
What are you experiencing with your grief right now?
I’m sending you so much love. Just remember that you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and everything is going to be okay.