5 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Grief

By January 8, 2019 February 15th, 2019 Blog

Grief is difficult. It is challenging, and it is like moving out into the unknown. We’ve never experienced life like this without our loved ones.

Today I’m going to be sharing with you 5 things that I wish someone told me before going through the loss of my loved ones.
We’re unsure of where to go, who we really are, and really what to do with our lives without them in it.

My first tip for you is to know that there are a lot of flu-like symptoms when we go through grief. There are a lot of physical symptoms. Our immune system is down, we are under a lot of stress, and we feel exhausted, okay? I had a hard time doing a lot of physical exercise after the loss of my mom. I had a hard time eating. And I did not feel well. I experienced a lot of headaches and fatigue. So know that if you’re experiencing, you know, flu-like symptoms, physical symptoms like aches and pains, that is a part of grief. It just, it’s a part of it, it’s a part of the process.

Tip number two is that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, okay? There is no one size fits all in the grief journey. We have the five stages of grief that Elizabeth Kubler-Ross created, and they are wonderful. But know that there is not a one size fits all for everyone. So whatever you’re experiencing right now is okay; you are exactly where you’re supposed to be.

Tip number three is that the “firsts” hurt the most. The first week, the first anniversary of the loss of your loved one. It could be their birthday or your birthday without them in it. It could be a milestone of yours, like your wedding. You know, when I had my wedding, my mom and dad and my entire family had passed. And it was hard, you know, not having my family members there with me to celebrate one of the biggest days of my life. But I knew that they were there spiritually. And I called upon them, and that’s when I received my gift of the double rainbow. The firsts hurt the most, and know that it’s okay, it’s just a part of the grief journey.

Tip number four is that you will never be the same person that you once were when they were alive. Grief changes you, at exactly the moment that they pass. You will never be that person that you once were. It wakes you up to what life is all about. I know I’m a completely transformed person since my mother passed away. And I took the opportunity to find the best version of myself.

Tip number five is that “Nobody ever told me grief felt so much like fear,” C.S. Lewis said, and it’s true. Grief is scary, and it feels like we are moving out into the unknown. We are unsure of what to expect. You know, what life is going to be like without our loved ones in it.

These are 5 tips that I would like to share with you today because it’s something that I experienced through my grief journey. And I would love for you to share something, you know, that you’ve experienced through your grief. Please share down below. If you loved this video, please share it with others.  Wishing you so much love on your grief journey.