4 Ways To Cope When Grief Triggers Come Up

By March 21, 2019 Blog

Have you ever had a grief trigger?

Today we’re going to talk about grief triggers and what to do when grief triggers arise!

A lot of us that have gone through the loss of a loved one, we experience so many different emotions. It’s like a roller coaster ride of emotions, and I mean it’s been seven years since my mother passed, and I just lost a girlfriend to cancer, and the grief triggers still come up.

So I’m going to share with you four tips that you can use to implement when your grief triggers come up for you. Every person experiences a different range of emotions when they’ve gone through the loss of a loved one. It could be a song that you hear in the grocery store, or on the radio. It could be when you’re visiting the hospital. It could be a specific flower that you see.

You might even see a person that resembles your loved one or even the way that they dress. No matter what, we’re going to experience grief triggers, and this can happen to you when you’re especially going through your loved one’s things and sorting things out. This is just totally natural, and it’s a natural way of going through grief.

Grief Trigger tip #1

Is that I have for you is to identify the specific trigger. When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and in deep sadness, and it’s an unexpected time, try to look within and find out where that is coming from. Does this remind you of the time you spent with them? Try not to avoid dealing with these grief triggers.

Grief Trigger tip #2

Find a place to reflect in private. Because I didn’t have that time to reflect in private, right at the hospital. I had to wait until months later, and then I excused myself, found myself a safe place so I could feel into it. Just find that time, like a quiet time to process those emotions. It could be a restroom, a car, an empty room. Cry, whatever you need to do to get through it. You may pray.

For me, I like to do a lot of breath work, and breathing in and breathing out. Because when we’re grieving, we tend not to breathe correctly and thoroughly, and it holds that tension within ourselves.

Grief Trigger tip #3

My next tip is to encourage you not to be afraid of grief triggers. Now I look at grief triggers as a beautiful experience, so we can start to look at the positive memories rather than the negative memories of the grief triggers. When we are triggered, it is a beautiful moment to spend that time with our loved ones.

Those grief triggers are showing up because of the love that you had for your loved one that has passed. They’re showing up because you miss them. You miss their presence, and you can look at it as they’re visiting you.

Grief Trigger tip #4

Spend time with your loved one. This is the most beautiful experience you could have. When you feel those grief triggers coming up, and you’re in a public setting, you can tell your friends or your family and say, hey, I’m being triggered. I’m having a grief trigger right now.

I’m just spending some time with mom, or with dad, or whoever that is that you’ve lost. I invite you to close your eyes and invite them in. Invite them in, and see their face smiling right at you, down upon you. You can ask them questions. Just spend some time with them and feel into it. It’s an excellent opportunity for your healing process.

Share in the comments below what grief triggers come up for you. I’d love to hear from you. šŸ™‚

I’m sending you so much love and light.