The holidays are upon us, and it can be a tough time if we’ve gone through the loss of our loved one.
Today I wanted to talk about how I deal with grief during the holidays. I want to share with you some things that have helped me during the past years and the years moving forward.
How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays Tip #1
My first tip to you is to look out and to see if there’s anybody else that doesn’t have a place to go on the holidays. When we invite those that don’t have family and friends that are alone into our homes, it helps us and fills our hearts to help others. We are all here in this world to love and serve other people. And when we do so, it makes us feel good.
How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays Tip #2
Tip number two is surround yourself with like-minded people. Be with your family that has also gone through that loss and then also surround yourself with friends that understand you. You know, some people that haven’t gone through loss in their life might not understand what you’re experiencing.
When we can surround ourselves with others that have also gone through loss in their life it feels like we understand, we get each other, and what the beautiful thing is that we can each talk about our loved one that is no longer with us during the holidays.
How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays Tip #3
Tip number three is to honor them. Welcome them in. You know, our loved ones that have passed over, they might not be here with us physically, we might not be able to see them, but they are always with us spiritually. And when we talk about them, when we honor them, and maybe do some of the traditions that we used do to with those loved ones, it feels like they’re there with us, and they are. They truly are.
So what we can do is we can go around the table during Christmas time and share something that we’re truly grateful for and thankful for our loved ones. And especially the ones that have passed over. Share old memories, old stories, and have them there at the dinner table with you. You can do this.
How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays Tip #4
Have a tradition each year. After I lost my mom, this will be my seventh year without her, the first year I thought my Christmas was never going to be the same and I was never going to be truly happy and fulfilled again. What we did is we decided to have a campfire outside on Christmas Eve and honor my mother and our loved ones that have passed. It was so beautiful. The stars are right up in the sky, looking down upon us. And when we talk about our loved ones, they are there, and we’re sharing how much we cared for them.
My mom used to always tell me when I was a little girl because my dad passed away when I was two years old, she used to always say, daddy, ‘s in the stars. He is the brightest start in the sky. And to this day when I look up into the stars, I know my dad is watching down upon me. So create a tradition for yourself.
Create a tradition where you’re able to create something new for your holiday season, and invite those that you love into that celebration as well. It’s a time to honor and love on each other and to be grateful for what we truly have.
I wish you a very beautiful holiday season. If you have any questions, comments, anything at all, please post in the comments below. I’m here to serve you and to support you. Just remember, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be, and my heart is always with you.