When we grieve, we feel lost, we feel empty, we feel alone, and we need somebody there to be there for us. I’m going to share with you 10 ways to help a friend in grief. If your friend has just lost a loved one, then they need you. They need you there; they need your support.
TIP #1 The first thing that I would love for you to do for them is to be fully present. Show up and be present with your friend. That’s all that they need; they need you there. Just go over to their house, show up, and be present with them so that they can be in their pain.
TIP #2 Talk about their loved one that died. Don’t ignore what happened, their loved one has just passed away, and they’re now gone. They want to talk about it. Ask your friend that’s in grief, would you like to talk about what happened.
TIP #3 Listen more and talk less. Let them do the talking; you’re there to listen to them. Just be there, and be an ear for them. Listen to whatever they have to say, and support them.
TIP #4 Tell stories about their loved one that has passed. And it could be something that their loved one did to impact your life. It makes your friend feel good. They want to talk about their loved one that has passed. They want to hear stories about them.
TIP #5 Bring them comforting remedies. When I went through all of my loss, my best friend, she came over, she brought me essential oils, she brought me bubble bath, and tea, and certain things like that, things that I would use on a daily basis, even candles.
TIP #6 Ask them if you can make phone calls for them or even send out emails to friends of the family or other people that need to know and be notified that that person has passed. Because when we go through the loss of a loved one, we are overwhelmed, we can’t even think clearly, and we feel temporarily crazy.
TIP #7 Don’t fix them. They don’t need to be fixed. They are in grief; they are feeling not themselves at all. They will not be acting like the way that they normally act. They are going to be confused, lost, overwhelmed, in deep sadness.
TIP #8 Let them be in their pain. Don’t try to tell them to stop crying; they need to feel it. If they are crying or they need to scream or get angry, or anything, let them be in their pain, mm-kay? Let them feel it.
To heal, we need to feel. Know that it’s okay if they’re feeling that way.
TIP #9 This is not about you; it’s about them. If they are maybe getting frustrated with you, or they could be taking out their emotions on you, but know that’s it’s not about you, it’s what they’re experiencing. Don’t feel any hurt, like you’re a bad person or a bad friend. You are doing the best that you can do, and know that, okay? This isn’t about you, this is about them and being in their grief.
TIP #10 All you’re required to do is love them, love them. Show them love, bring love, be the friend that you are. Show up with an open heart. Just go with the flow, and be present for them. They need you right now. They need you to be there in the most difficult time in their life.
Grief isn’t easy, and because that they have you, they are going to be comforted in such a big way. Be the best friend that you can be. Love with your full heart; you are going to do great. If you have any questions or comments, Please post them down below. I am here to serve you and to help you help your friend in grief.
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